Reunion after 16 years!
My name is Jennifer Sloan, and our story begins in 1987 in Butte, Montana. This is where I met my husband Sgt Robert Sloan......Our meeting was totally by accident really. We were both taking an English class in Night School that we found out later that we didn't have to take. We had choir classes together too that year. I was a senior, he was a junior. We were the 'perfect couple' ---we never argued-not once did Bobby (that's what we called him then--I still do. --This 'Rob' person, I can't bring myself to call him that) ever raise his voice to me. We did everything together-movies, dances, church--everything.
Soon graduation happened, Bobby went to visit some family in Missouri---for some reason that we can't seem to remember, Bobby broke up with me.....Shortly after that, I found out I was pregnant. To make a long story short, we decided not to get married and be a young family. Adoption was a viable answer--not just to us, but to our childs' parents. I chose a beautiful, wonderful family.....I never heard from Bobby again--I never stopped loving him either.
November,2003---I had seen Bobbys' name on Classmates.com, and took a chance on sending an email to him....this was in August or September. On Thanksgiving Day, he called me to talk---we both cautiously dipped our toes in the pool, so to speak. We exchanged email addresses, but somehow we both got them wrong--go figure. :) I never heard from him again...
April,2004: Resurrection Sunday (Easter). Bobby calls me, this time to talk longer and tell me that he's probably going to be deployed. We talked for hours that night----and the next 3 or 4 nights. We talked about everything under the sun--we walked down 'Memory Lane', discussed old friends and acquaintances...then delved into some deeper waters....we discussed 'us' and what happened after our son was born and adopted. And oh how wrong we were about each others' feelings and thoughts!!! We both thought that the other was angry with us...and come to find out that this wasn't the case at all. Oh, yeah our feelings had definately been stomped on, and emotions were running rampant--but come to find out that neither one of us had ever been angry with the other.....almost 16 years we had been thinking this. Almost 16 years it took me to get some guts and email this man. .....Almost 16 years lost when we could have worked this out by talking to each other.
Well it only took 3 days for Bobby to decide that he wanted to come to me in Oregon to visit, reconnect, and see what happened. The day he flew in--I thought I was going to throw up, I was so nervous!! But he came down that escalator--Lord he was all grown up!! And Lord he was just as beautiful of a man as he was back then---except he had more hair then. :) By the third day he was in town, he proposed to me---absolutely no hesitation--YES!
People freaked out on me about this--they didn't understand what was going on. And it's still hard for people to understand the whole story--I usually give them the abbreviated version-and they're still confused, but that's okay.
Our children and I drove from the Oregon coast to Nebraska in July. A week later, Bobby, the kids' and I were married at the courthouse. I always am telling people that Bobby is my 'Happily Ever After', and for some reason he thinks I'm an angel.
So that's our story----the abbreviated version. I am so proud of my husband--military or not(which I knew he was going to be in the Army when we were in school--he told me that's what he wanted to do, and he did it). I'm proud of what he's done in his life so far, what his goals are, and especially of the man he has become. He's a wonderful father especially. His kids love him very much. (Almost as much as I do)
Thanks for listening---Jennifer Sloan
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